What Are You Daring To Do?

Miki Kashtan, Non-Violent Communication expert recently posted her evolving thoughts on ‘Why Patriarchy is Not About Men’ and what we can do about.  I posted several years ago my experience report of an all day workshop with Miki and she is not only an amazing facilitator, but an amazing human and writer.
Miki says we need to stop paying exclusive attention to the individual actions (of others) and start to measure the degree to which we take action to change or affect systems we are part of.   We need to act congruently with our espoused and actual values. To change up the patriarchal system we live in we need to push ourselves out of our own comfort zones.  Her writing is about societal systemic issues and more importantly about our personal agency for change, when our values do not align.

Do you have the courage and ability to say, even when you feel uncomfortable:

“No, I won’t participate”
“I need X”
“In this context, this does/doesn’t make sense to me’?
When have you done just that? Does it include times when it meant you could have lost your job?  Or are you more prone to recoil into the safety of your current patterns, and current job with all its perks and advantages?

I am leaving the big-agile organizational transformation coaching business because I do not believe in imposed coaching.  It isn’t that I refuse to coach in a larger organization, but I won’t have a central agile department as well as other placement agencies or prime contractors between me and my client. As long as I can be a participant in a Setup process prior to engagement, I will be able to choose whether I am a good fit for a potential customer.

I have exercised my agency. I have stepped out of my comfort zone to align my values to my work life – and looking forward to new, fresh opportunities for success.

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2 Comments on “What Are You Daring To Do?”

  1. Sharon Small Says:

    Fantastic Andrea. I was at a large organizational event in June and these kinds of questions came up. It was good to see it happening and people beginning to think about their participation in work cultures that neither support them or the others they work with. Can’t always push the blame up (or down .. or sideways).

    Good luck on your new adventure. All that you say about Miki holds true for you!


  2. Andrea Chiou Says:

    Dearest Sharon – thank you so much for your support! Means a lot – and thank you for that last bit too – though I have a long ways to go to reach her level of commitment. I did just enquire about joining a two day NVC/Focussing seminar in Maryland this weekend – I think that will do me a lot of good if I was in time for the limited openings…


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